TWO ARE BETTER THAN ONE

What is Marriage? Marriage, simply put, can be described  as a  divinely blessed, lifelong  covenant relationship between a man and a woman bound by unconditional and symbiotic love. Ideally, more often than not, a marriage is meant to be an institution for procreation, mutual support, companionship and of course, sexual right and satisfaction, under the umbrella of true love and affection.  However, like any other institution, marriage or pre-marital relationships are often faced with different challenges -some dominant while others are hidden. Actually challenges are not unexpected, especially given the fact that the two persons in the relationship might be coming from different cultural, religious, educational or financial backgrounds. Nevertheless, these challenges are surmountable with unalloyed cooperation of the parties involved. The truth is, there is no perfect marriage. Relationships grow progressively with time. From my experience as a marriage counselor, ...

A GOOD WOMAN MAKES A GOOD WIFE AND A GOOD WIFE BECOMES A GOOD MOTHER. A GOOD MOTHER GIVES BIRTH TO A GOOD CHILD. IF YOU WANT TO BE A GOOD WOMAN, WIFE AND MOTHER, EMULATE THESE STEPS BELOW 1). Never raise your voice for any reason to your husband. Its a sign of disrespect. 2). Don't expose your husband's weaknesses to your family and friends. It will bounce back at you. You are each other's keeper. 3). Never use attitudes and moods to communicate to your husband, you never know how your husband will interpret them. Defensive women don't have a happy home. 4). Never compare your husband to other men, you've no idea what their life is all about. If you attack his Ego, his Love for you will diminish. 5). Never ill treat your husband's friends because you don't like them, the person who's supposed to get rid of them is your husband. 6). Never forget that your husband married you, not your maid or anyone else. Do your duties. 7). Never assign any...

Think before you speak:  Do not be hasty in making comments about your spouse. Control your words and comments about issues in the home. The scripture says in James 1:19, "Wherefore, my beloved  brethren, let every man be swift to hear,  slow to speak, slow to wrath". Avoid retaliation: For lasting peace to be maintained in a marriage, each partner must resist the urge to retaliate. Rather, they should learn to discuss issues so as to understand the causes of frictions and how to avoid a re-occurrence. Be purposeful in your actions: Do not act by chance, neither be careless in your actions. Act with genuine reasons. Avoid acting by impulse. Otherwise, your spouse may not really understand you. In other words, you may never be taken serious until things get worse in the home. Avoid bad influences in your marriage: Avoid third person interference in your marriage. Also, avoid discussing sailient issues in your marriage with friends, especially those friends or ass...

Marriage is not always a bed of roses. A perfect marriage doesn't exist and it is normal to have those not so happy moments but what if there are more unhappy moments in your marriage than happy times? Is your marriage getting difficult and unhappy? All options and solutions must be exhausted before considering leaving an unhappy marriage. As long as there is love and respect in a marriage, it is best to do something and fix an unhappy marriage to avoid the pain of divorce. Here are some helpful ways to fix an unhappy marriage. Figure out the cause of unhappiness in your marriage.  The best way to fix an unhappy marriage is to think back and pinpoint the time when your marriage started to become unhappy. What marriage issues causing the unhappiness? Do you and your spouse became too focused on your careers or other responsibilities that you eventually drifted apart? Is cheating or infidelity involved? Is financial or money problems causing the trouble in your relationship? Do...

Love is a choice, a commitment to respond at all times and in all situations like God who is Love. To develop a deeper love walk requires concerted effort of the persons involved. It is more practical than theoretical.  Marriages with strong foundations include a worldview that goes deeper than compatibility, best friends and love - deeper than feelings. What is unseen in these relationships is the view that the goal is not happiness; the altimate goal is oneness. However, in the midst of this symbiosis, happiness is bound to ensue. The couple know they are a team, with the following important tips in mind: (1) Each one is out to make the other happy, rather than focus on making the self happy. (2) Happiness is not the goal of marriage because happiness is like the ebb and flow of a tide, always changing. (3) The goal of marriage is deeper - for the betterment of our souls.Together, we are stronger, and left alone, we might persevere in bad habits and selfishness. Marriage helps...

Valentine Poem : HEY! ANOTHER VALENTINE! An age long longing A genuine conviction Bathed in the water of the spirit Flowing on the table of the soul Across ages, races and faces Dead yet undying In the abode Of the Mother-Earth    Bad! Sad! Not a fad! Indeed excruciating!   Oh Valentinus! How brutally treated In the cruel theater Of the callous Claudius Christened by majority, “saint” After his conviction Unwavering! Resolute! Giving no dam To fight the fight And right the wrongs Great Valentinus! Claudius the Great! Claudius the callous! Adorned in elegance Wrapped in awe The awe of tyranny With armaments of cruelty Wrestling with agape For a romance with paganism     Love in the air Oh Agape In days gone by True, divine But now Echoes of Lust Embellishment of Affection In the shrine of eros Mingled and Tangled In a hash and rash tempo On the carpets of i...