Helpful Tips for Your Marriage

  1. Think before you speak: Do not be hasty in making comments about your spouse. Control your words and comments about issues in the home. The scripture says in James 1:19, "Wherefore, my beloved  brethren, let every man be swift to hear,  slow to speak, slow to wrath".

  2. Avoid retaliation: For lasting peace to be maintained in a marriage, each partner must resist the urge to retaliate. Rather, they should learn to discuss issues so as to understand the causes of frictions and how to avoid a re-occurrence.

  3. Be purposeful in your actions: Do not act by chance, neither be careless in your actions. Act with genuine reasons. Avoid acting by impulse. Otherwise, your spouse may not really understand you. In other words, you may never be taken serious until things get worse in the home.

  4. Avoid bad influences in your marriage: Avoid third person interference in your marriage. Also, avoid discussing sailient issues in your marriage with friends, especially those friends or associates whose marital life is not worthy of emulation. It may expose your marriage to strange women (or men) who desire, at least, to have such a "better" home as yours. Beware! The saying "you cannot give what you don't have" is practically true, when it comes to the issue of marriage. Those who do not have a grip over their marriage have no practically useful advice to give you. So be wise; do not hand over your marriage to destiny destroyers. "Be not deceived: evil communications corrupt good manners"- 1Corinthians15:33.

  5. Avoid comparing your marriage to others: Outward seeming cordial appearance of couples, especially in public functions, could just be a window dressing. It may just be a script borne out of egos, acted to paint a different image in the eyes of the public. However, some may be managing a serious challenge in the confines of their home, which they are hoping to overcome someday. The truth is, every relationship has its peculiar challenges; I have never seen an all-perfect relationship. However, every serious relationship demands the concerted efforts of both parties towards making the union a progressive success.
  6. Make your spouse feel appreciated: There is need for mutual appreciation of parties in love. In a true relationship, there is no room for selfishness or greed. There is no point to be pretentious; appreciate your spouse when it is needful; when you appreciate your spouse, it will instill motivation and trust in the relationship.
  7. Always express mutual love: The scripture stresses the need for mutual love in marriage: "Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it"- Ephesians 5:25, 28.   "Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them"- Col.3:19. "Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord"- Col.3:18. The key to lasting peace in marriage is mutual love. This symbiosis begets mutual understanding. It is the fuel that drives the vehicle of an enduring and lasting relationship. Mutual love is more than a mere re-echoing of the words " I love you" in a melodious reverberation for the pleasure of two lover-birds; it is more practical than theoretical. Bringing your words into practical reality is highly beneficial for the healthy growth of the relationship. It builds up trust and mutual confidence of both partners in love. Really, the saying is good; but the doing is much better.

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